Valentines Day is fast approaching; I hope you all are in the thralls of whatever your definition of love is. I think talking about what love means, to each and every one of us is important. There are so many miscommunications in our world, because we don’t talk to each other, and ask the important questions.. Sometimes we ask the important questions, but the answers we get aren’t honest. Love is complicated! Here are some descriptions of love for you to think about:
1.Wikipedia says, “Ancient Greeks identified four forms of love: kinship or familiarity (in Greek, storge), friendship and/or platonic desire (philia), sexual and/or romantic desire (eros), and self-emptying or divine love (agape). … The term s’agapo means I love you in Greek. The word agapo is the verb I love.
2.The Bible says, “1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues,they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
This is the definition my Baptist Grandmother read to me, when I asked her what love is.
3. Buddha has some wonderful things to say about love as well; the first being that you need to love yourself. Not love yourself in a narcissistic, self-centered way, but love yourself in a healthy way. Take time for yourself, your mental health, and your physical self. Hug yourself and know you are good and worthy of love.
When I read through the definitions, I could see in my head examples of couples to fit every description. Love works when two people have the same definition. Love changes through out a relationship depending on life experiences and age. Love works the best when you both grow.
I have been fortunate to be loved, by men, children, friends, pets, grandchildren….. Most of those loves, of course, have been different from one another. Affection will always be important, trust, kindred spirits, someone who will put me first just once in a while. I think love can be defined by who will let you put your cold feet up against theirs; who will let you have “just a couple” of their French fries; who will correct you privately when you’re wrong; and who will still love you when you are being stupid…
Survivors seek love, by their definition. Loving someone means exploring that together; and coming through the relationship whole. This week let’s think about love, giving love, and receiving love. I hope the warmth of it surrounds you and propels you forward.
Happy Valentines Week!